Puberty is a natural and essential stage of development that all of us go through. It brings about physical, emotional, and social changes that can be both exciting and challenging. If you have children going through puberty, and especially if they have siblings, it’s important to be supportive, understanding, and respectful of their journey, and to help others in the family to do the same.

In my child raising days, I had six children, and all at various stages of growing, and of course this was a particular issue at times.  Hormones can wreak havoc on even the most peaceful of families.

In this blog post, I’ve put together some helpful tips on how siblings and other family members can cope with puberty together, with a particular focus on respecting privacy and bathroom times.

Start the Conversation: The first step in supporting a child going through puberty is to open up a conversation. Encourage open and honest communication. Let your child know that you’re there for them, and they can talk to you about any concerns or questions they have. By being approachable, you create a safe space for them to share their experiences.

Respect Their Privacy: Privacy is a significant concern during puberty. Your child may need time alone, especially when it comes to getting ready in the morning, taking showers, or changing clothes. Respect their need for personal space and time. Knock before entering their room or the bathroom, and always ask for permission before borrowing personal items.

Establish Bathroom Time Routines: In a household with multiple family members sharing bathrooms, it’s essential to establish a bathroom time routine. Discuss and plan specific times for each family member to use the bathroom in the morning and evening. This can help avoid conflicts and ensure everyone has enough time and privacy.

Share Educational Resources: Puberty can be a confusing and sometimes overwhelming time. Sharing age-appropriate books, articles, or videos about puberty can be helpful. It can provide your child with valuable information and reassure them that what they’re experiencing is normal.

Be Supportive and Non-Judgmental: Puberty often brings mood swings and emotional ups and downs. Be patient and understanding when your child is going through a tough time. Offer a listening ear without judgment and remind them that you care about their well-being.

Encourage Healthy Habits: Puberty is a time when healthy habits are crucial. Encourage your child to maintain good hygiene, eat nutritious meals, and get enough sleep. You can even suggest doing physical activities together, like going for a bike ride or a walk, to stay active.

Avoid Comparisons: Every individual’s experience of puberty is unique, and it’s important not to make comparisons between siblings or family members. Avoid making comments about physical changes, as this can lead to self-esteem issues. Instead, focus on celebrating each child’s individuality and accomplishments.

Seek Guidance When Needed: If your child is experiencing challenges or issues related to puberty that you’re unsure how to handle, don’t hesitate to seek guidance from a trusted adult, such as a parent or guardian. They can provide additional support and advice.

Navigating puberty as parents, siblings and family members involves patience, understanding, and respect for each other’s privacy and personal journeys. By creating a supportive and caring environment, you can help your child go through this transformative time with confidence and self-assuredness. Remember that your role is crucial in making puberty a positive and educational experience for everyone involved.